Paige Doster-Grimes

Reflections and Ramblings from North Carolina

Happy New Year!



It’s that time again… time for New Year’s resolutions! I used to be very cynical about the resolution frenzy. “If it were so important to you,” I’d decry, “you shouldn’t wait around for some arbitrary day to implement that change!” Oh, what an annoying twit I was.

But as time and life progress, I think it’s fair to say our energy and resolve wear. We can all use an extra push – however “arbitrary” – to make positive changes in our lives. Whatever gives you a feeling of empowerment should be welcomed with open arms – if nothing else, the placebo effect is real.

Need a sage burning ritual before you’re ready to eat a little healthier? Light it up! Convinced you must buy a new planner and fill it with a detailed workout plan before you can hit the gym? Jot away! Find strength in charging some crystals/reading the Bible/quoting the Koran/power posing/meditating on the nothingness of life? Dive on in and let your vessel be filled with universal goodness so you can make it another day.

2016 was a big year of transition for us. Lots of good change, but the life-altering variety that also makes you think you might be losing your mind. Here’s what we have been up to over the past 365 days:

  • Jesse and I quit our jobs (without a plan for new employment)
  • We moved from DC to Virginia to North Carolina (3 moves in 4 months! We didn’t even break anything!)
  • We bought a house
  • We worked at essentially 3 different jobs, each
  • We said goodbye to my Gram and our sweet nephew-dog Bear
  • We welcomed 2 new human nephews into our family
  • We traded one car for two and a walking life in the city for driving in suburbia (What is life, if not a series of trade-offs?! But really, someone please bring me a vegan milkshake cause they don’t exist down here)

I’m not going so far as to make firm resolutions for the new year. Those usually sound like “Eat less ice cream” or “Wake up without hitting the snooze button” and I couldn’t be less interested in either. (Let the record show that after typing that sentence I got up for ice cream).

But I have been thinking about what I want to do more of in 2017, which I guess is just as much a resolution as cutting things out. I hope to write more, do more exploring in our new home state, take action to create a more just world, and stay curious and positive when it’s more tempting to become defensive and cynical. I better go charge up my crystals, though, cause we all know making progress that lasts beyond January 15th requires dedication.

So, I hope you choose to stack the cards in your favor this year by practicing whatever rituals, exercises, or strategies speak to your soul. To heck with anyone who tells you otherwise – your prayers/mantras/accountability partners/vision boards/habit-forming apps/complicated list-making systems/new year’s resolutions will work if you think they do. They’re all ways to reinforce what we know is true – that we are capable of incredible things if we keep on working at it. May you find motivation wherever you can in 2017. And if all else fails, there’s always 2018.


5 thoughts on “Happy New Year!

  1. Well said! 🙂

    I always enjoy your posts.

    –– Curtis Greenwood (919) 717-9899

  2. Very positive thinking!

  3. I intend to share this with Glenn and Mary Ellen!

  4. Nice goals to consider, “write more, explore, take action to create a more just world, rid cynicism…” Thanks

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